Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Wisdom and Perspective with your Kids...
What would happen to our lives, our world, if the parent could unconditionally affirm the child, saying in so many words: "You are precious to us; you will always have our love and support; you are here to be who you are; try never to hurt another, but never stop trying to become yourself as fully as you can; when you fall and fail, you are still loved by us and welcomed to us, but you are also here to leave us, and to go onward toward your own destiny without having to worry about pleasing us." How history would change! How each child would be freed by the parent's courage to sacrifice his or her narcissistic needs in service to that child's joint but separate journey! How each parent would then be free to address the questions that life brings to him or her, without living through the child! How each child could explore, experiment, falter, and regroup, without shame, without self-derogation, armed always by the experience of love and support, which one may carry as food for the soul in the times of desolation and defeat that come to us all! -Anonymous
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I do not think this is a comment on kids -- it is a comment on humans. It would be an amazing world if each human could feel this way about other humans.
And as a man who hopes to be a parent some day, I actually think saying this could handicap a child. Because, truthfully, I will not always be there. I think that it is more important to teach self-love. Be true to your authentic self and don't worry about what others think -- even your parents.
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