Quiting

Several members of a group, to which I belong, was called "Quitters" and because of this perception that a person labelling them quitters no longer want to join our group.

This makes me laugh on so many levels. First, we are all quitters to some extent -- otherwise, we would still be in diapers. So the question is when is something "quitting" and something "moving on".

For me, there is no question that there are things which I will not easily quit or it is unlikely I will ever quit, e.g. my marriage. My job, I will quit, if something better comes a long. So what is the difference. For me, it is about my long term goals and what I want. If my wife woke up tomorrow and decided that she (1) did not want to have kids and (2) wanted to be a beach bum in Thailand, I would probably quit my marriage because it is not what I want and not what I signed up for.

However, I don't think because I am tired of doing something means that it is time to quit. Nothing, especially great things, is easy and I think that I will need to work through these things.

I also think that how you quit is what helps define me as a man. It is like breaking up or quitting a relationship. The fade or fizzle is irresponsible in my book, but I also don't think listening to a woman trash me 3-4 times is necessary. Each man needs to figure out what is right for him.

Ahhh it is so easy to describe how it should be and so hard to actually do it.